Courtney is moving to New Jersey with her boyfriend!
Tim is moving probably at the beginning of June and Courtney will try and follow sometime around then. He's going to Rutgers in the fall and she's going to work up there while he does. I'm really excited and happy for both of them. Of course, I love Tim and this will be a great new chapter for both of them.
She's not telling our parents until they're here for her birthday/mother's day (side note: we're going to Fonda San Miguel..can't wait!). Which is May 10. It might be the next time we see them...so, I was in favor of her waiting for the face-to-face. Any inputs?
It's odd, because even though I requested that I live alone...in some ways I'm not prepared for all of this. The empty house. The splitting of assets (can't wait for the fights about books). The fact that Shadow stays here (I'm kidding...I love that douche). Most of all, the reality that my roommate/best friend/sister will no longer be 10 feet away. Not even in the same area code. New Brunswick, NJ might as well be Singapore.
At the same time, we both started asking for change around May of last year. So, one year later I'm looking forward to visiting NJ and then stealing Courtney to go to Boston, NYC, Penn, VT, etc. I can't wait to be able to play music as loud as I want and dance around all 1700 sq feet of my house...maybe even in my underwear (I doubt that part). I'll be able to talk to the cats without hearing Courtney say "WHAT?" me: "I'm not talking to you!" And, having my ex-roommate/be-fri/sister just a bootleg IM away, even if she's in 506.
On top of that, I do worry about my social circle and how I'm going to manage starting this summer. I went to a birthday apps/drinks thing tonight and I had a really hard time. Without going into it, it stirred up a lot of my old anxieties but, for the first time, made me wonder if it was me...or maybe them.
Meaning, maybe I've actually changed and maybe I shouldn't hang out with some of the people I used to. Regardless, it makes me fear that I might become a total hermit once Courtney leaves. What if agoraphobia is my future?
I did get a spooky picture of downtown tonight.
3 comments:
Wow! Congrats (? do you congratulate someone on that?) Courtney!
I kind of went through something similar when my sis and I parted our separate ways. We didn't live together always, but for about 23 years we did, and even when she had her own place in Austin, we still saw/had each other within driving distance. We could still skip work, like gay little lovers, and rendezvous for a long long lunch. We'd go shopping together, see dollar movies, etc.
In short, like Courtney, my sister is my best friend too, and more than that, someone that i know "gets me" and who, at the end of the day, will forever have my back and be there for me when I need someone to talk to. I don't feel that way about most people in my life, so not having that support system nearby was huge.
So I totally get where you're coming from. I'm not going to lie, it was extremely difficult to have her move to the East Coast, and then be in the foreign service, traveling around to unreachable places, where I couldn't pick up the phone as much as I wanted. But at the same time, she left to pursue her dreams, and it kind of made me think about what I wanted out of my life too (this is probably sounding gayer by the moment, but i guess you have to have a sister and be a sister to understand). Which is when I decided to move to SF.
Anyway, in short, the bond is always there. Whenever we do see each other, its the same. In the not-so-distant future, I would like to be in a place where I have my family around me, but long story short, the good thing about sisters is that you'll always have that bond, no matter what, no matter how far.
I think it will be good for you, though. It will be like a new, clean slate/fresh start/adventure sort of thing. And it probably won't be forever--the you being in different cities, part, that is.
What the hell is with people relaying important information via the internet today?
Normally I would agree with the face-to-face, but you're giving them considerably less time to deal and you're packing "you" info into a day that should be about your Mom. Your call man.
Congrats Courtney - that's awesome.
Reb - I won't let you be a hermit. I will physically push you out the door if necessary.
Courtney, that's kind of a good point.
However, the brunch is a joint Courtney's b-day/Mom's day.
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